Family Talanoa Planner: a printable worksheet for calm family conversations
Talanoa is a Pacific way of talking: open, honest and unhurried. This worksheet helps you plan a family conversation about a hard topic such as phones, money, school, church or a big decision, so everyone feels heard.
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What is inside
- A “before, during, after” guide for your family talanoa
- A note on when to ask a minister, elder or counsellor to sit with you
- A worked example: the Fifita family and the late-night phone talk
- A “your turn” planner: topic, who and when, how to begin, ground rules, what we agree
Who it is for: Parents, grandparents, young people and carers in Pacific and Pasifika families.
Go deeper with a guide
Like this worksheet? These longer guides build on it, with more worked examples and scripts.
Pacific Parents’ Toolkit
A$29A 47-page toolkit with seven worksheets for family talanoa, elders, discipline, school and caring for yourself too.
See the guideThe Pasifika Boundary & Guilt Guide
A$24Word-for-word scripts for money requests, family obligations and elder expectations without disrespecting your culture.
See the guideQuestions
What do I receive?
One PDF with 2 printable pages, delivered by email straight after purchase.
Can I print it more than once?
Yes, for your own family or household. Please do not share, resell or post the file online.
Is this therapy?
No. It is an educational worksheet for reflection and conversation. It is not therapy, diagnosis or emergency help. If things feel too big, see a doctor or call Lifeline 13 11 14 (Australia) or 1737 (New Zealand), or 000 / 111 in an emergency.
Is it made for one Pacific culture?
No. It is inspired by values shared across many Pacific communities, and families differ. Adapt it to your own.