What Is This Behaviour Telling Us? A printable worksheet for big feelings in kids
When a child shouts, shuts down or refuses, the behaviour is only the tip. Underneath there is often a feeling or a need. This worksheet helps you get curious and respond with care, while still holding kind limits.
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What is inside
- A behaviour iceberg: what we see and what is underneath
- Five steps to respond with curiosity
- A worked example: Sione and the homework
- A “your turn” page to note what you saw, what might be underneath and what to try
Who it is for: Parents and carers of children who have big behaviour or big feelings.
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Questions
What do I receive?
One PDF with 2 printable pages, delivered by email straight after purchase.
Can I print it more than once?
Yes, for your own family or household. Please do not share, resell or post the file online.
Is this therapy?
No. It is an educational worksheet for reflection and conversation. It is not therapy, diagnosis or emergency help. If things feel too big, see a doctor or call Lifeline 13 11 14 (Australia) or 1737 (New Zealand), or 000 / 111 in an emergency.
Is it made for one Pacific culture?
No. It is inspired by values shared across many Pacific communities, and families differ. Adapt it to your own.